I’m not a convenient friend

On Friday in my coffee date post, I talked about how friendship has been on my mind lately. Friendship is something I’ve struggled with since becoming a mother. I lost quite a few friends when I found out I was pregnant and I tried not to let it get to me because I was 18, almost 19 at the time. Most of my friends were partying and I couldn’t, but it was still hard to accept that my “friends” left me when I needed them the most. As time went on, I found best friends through family members and the memories I created with them were amazing, but things happened. Some things I’ve opened up about on here and some things I haven’t. For the other friendships that didn’t end for a reason, life just got busy and we just kind of went our separate ways. Then I found wonderful friends through blogging. I never expected to connect on such a level with people I didn’t personally know, but it wasn’t long before most of those friendships faded as well. 

It also wasn’t long before I began questioning certain friendships falling through the cracks because of me. I know not all of it is my fault, but I can take responsibility for alot of it. The thing is since my back got messed up, I am no longer a convenient friend. My life changed in a very drastic way when my back decided to go and eff up, but I try to deal with it the best I can. I’m still trying to do all the normal things mothers & stay at home moms do on a daily bases while trying to maintain relationships with family and friends, but I get it…

Live.Laugh.L0ve. // I'm not a convenient friend



I get that it’s not convenient to have to text or call me first. There are days that I just have quite a bit going on, especially days where I am hurting alot, that I just don’t think to pick up the phone and say, “Hey, how are you?”

I get it that it’s not convenient to ask me to lunch last minute or invite me over and I can’t just drop everything I’m doing anymore to be right over. There are quite a few days where it takes so much out of me just to keep my house somewhat in order, take care of my kids, our new puppy, my husband, and doing things that I like to do, that I have to have an advanced notice because there are just days where the pain stops me from being able to do anything.

Live.Laugh.L0ve. // I'm not a convenient friend



I get that it’s not convenient to read my blog and comment on it, when I’m not doing the same to yours all the time anymore. Especially lately, between everything above and now being pregnant, I barely have time/energy to blog, let alone do everything that comes with blogging.

I get that it not convenient to be my friend right now and I’m sorry for that, but I try to make an effort with those I care about. Whether it’s a text message, answering a phone call when I don’t really want to talk, sending a quick tweet, or leaving a little comment on IG. I put in the effort in even with all I struggle with so, it always baffles me that my friends can’t do the same. It’s not everyone and I know every one’s busy. I have friends who take the time to text me or call me and it’s always nice and I always make the time to respond or talk. 

It would just be nice to know that the people I thought would be here when it’s not convenient, to actually be here. Ya know?

I truly appreciate all the friends and family who have stuck by me during this hard time in my life.
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Do you have enemies?

That quote is one of my all time favorites.
Yes, this is the blogging world & we like to think mean girls, drama, cliques and the like shouldn’t be allowed here. That standing up for those we care about is wrong. I have to disagree. I don’t really separate “real life” from “blog life”. What goes on in one, goes on in the other weather it’s obvious or not.
I don’t normally do drama. Real life or blog life drama.
There are certain posts I won’t write because I don’t want the drama.
Seeing drama in the blog world is no surprise to me because we are all real people, with real feelings, who have real emotions & have made real friendships.
With that being said in real life I will stand up for my family and friends when a situation arises and i will do the same for my blog friends. I pissed someone off in this blog world the other day because I did exactly what I would do in real life, I stood up for my friend and you know what, it.felt.good.
I am a person and when I see others calling out people I care about so publicly, I don’t turn a blind eye to that. I don’t bite my tongue and I would hope my real friends wouldn’t either. Why? Because that is what you do when you care about someone. I know for a fact I would stand up for my family members, my husband, my sons, my God – I wouldn’t just turn the other way and shut my mouth and I won’t do that in blogging either.
I am human. Everyone behind a blog, a twitter account, a facebook page. We are all humans and we feel things and those things aren’t always rainbows and butterflies. We don’t all think or act the same. We are all different.
I do think there is drama that is unnecessary.. but I also think standing up for those we love and care about is important. You can stand up for someone without being a complete bitch and blasting them. When I stood up for my friend I didn’t cuss the blogger out, I really didn’t say much besides point out a fact. I was once told that the way I retaliate with facts instead of ugliness is a good thing & that’s what I do. I lay out the facts, the truth even if it pisses someone off. 
But, I don’t believe in smearing someones name all over social media because they went and made you mad, that is childish in every sense of the way. No different then seeing a “real life” friend smear someones name on FB. 
But I do believe in standing up for what I believe in and I believe in friendship.


The most beautiful gift + a giveaway

You may know my bloggy friend Kristina. {If not, go meet her she’s – hands down – amazing}
Kristina is not only so sweet, so real and like I said above amazing. She is beyond
talented. She uses her talent to create the most beautiful gift.

Have you ever capture a moment that you wanted framed? Does a song come to mind
every time you look at? Well now, you can have that special moment and that special song
together in the same place. Because that’s what Kristina does for you. She takes those moments
and those memories and brings them to life.

First – we have one of Hubby & I. I chose our song for the picture and she put it together so
beautifully.

The second one. Oh the second one. Had me in tears when I received it. That’s how much it
meant to me. That’s how meaningful her talent is.

These will be hung proudly in our home. I will smile as memories flash before my eyes every time
I see them. I will brag about Kristina and how her talent has touched my heart anytime someone
comes over and sees them. I can’t thank her enough for the gift she has given me.

You can purchase your Custom Photo to Words prints here.

 

 
Kristina is so kindly giving away a Custom Photo to Words print to one lucky person! 
 


I was not paid for this review. I adore these prints so much that I wanted to write a review for Kristina about
the beauty she creates. All opinions are 100% real and 100% mine.



Yall – I actually smiled

If you have been following this little ol blog of mine for awhile, you know that I don’t smile. Well, let me rephrase that. I smile with my mouth closed or I smirk – I’m a epic smirker. & It’s not that I hate my teeth – I just happened to hate my actual smile. I don’t know why, I just do. But I have 3 pictures from this weekend where I am smiling. #canigetafistpump

The photo’s below are from the bridal shower. It was a lot of fun and she got so much stuff. Sorry there is no up close pictures of what she got – that would be there very definition of inappropriate – unlinke this one right? ;)

Now – let’s back track some to the rest of the week. Hubs took us out to dinner at Chili’s & yummmm. I got a turkey sandwich on wheat bread with enchilada soup. It was delicious!

I got to see a gorgeous sunset. #nofilter

I wanted everything on this page. #thehungergamesfanforever Speaking of that – now I want to re-read the series. I may do that after I type this post. #stillobsessed

This is me after not getting enough sleep after the bachlorette party & going to the bridal shower the next day & grocery shopping & taking care of my littles. So I’m exhausted but smiling because it was a great weekend.

See – me and smiling, we just don’t get along. I think it’s because I went so long without smiling due to needing to have some teeth fixed that I just forgot how to smile all together.

Kage seemed a little sick this morning – so he got to snuggle with daddy while I snuggled with Jay. It was such a relaxing time.

Afterwards I cleaned the entire house & Hubby did yard work {that’s why he is wearing a holey shirt} which resulted in him laying on the couch claiming he wasn’t going to fall asleep. I did inform him that he was full of crap and 2 minutes later he was asleep.

Last one – Kage’s eyelashes, I die. They are so perfect. Who am I kidding – so is he. #ilovehim

Tell me – how was your weekend?!


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Featured ad this month 

The best thing about being a woman

“Is the prerogative to have a little fun!
Oh, oh, oh. Go totally crazy – forget I’m a lady
Men’s shirts – short skirts
Oh, oh, oh, really go wild – yeah, doin’ it in style.” 
– Shania Twain 
{Warning: This post does have 2 funny slightly “innapropriate” pictures. If you don’t want to see em, done read it. #justsayin}
 
Yall, that doesn’t even begin to describe the amazingness that was my sister in law’s bachlorette party on Saturday night. We showed up in downtown & owned that place like it was no body’s business. The first bar we went to – we decorated the table with lots of fun decor, including straws. Ha, our waiter got a huge kick out of it.



I was tipsy before we even left the first bar. We were those girls who danced our way into the bar, laughed loud, danced our hearts out and danced & laughed on the way out of the bar.



By the way. I completely love those hats. The bachlorette is on the right! :) This was my first girls night out in five years and I soaked it up!


True story. I almost hit several tree’s walking around downtown after we left the 2nd bar above. I was drunk and in heels trying to walk in a straight line and it just wasn’t happening, but I couldn’t help but laugh. We couldn’t really take any picture’s in the 3rd bar because it was down in a basement and the music was pumpin so what did we do?

We showed the girls on the dance floor how they were really suppose to dance. Yes, #thiswhitegirlcandance #socanmygirls. I was born with the ability to dance yall I swear it. Anyways, to make a long story short it was amazing, fun & absolutely crazy!! I need to go out with my girls more often for sure! We didn’t stroll in {I had a Designated Driver, no worries} until 2:30 in the morning and I was seeing double while eating the yummy taco cabana my husband picked up on his way home from the bachelor party {he had a DD 2}. I had one hell of a hangover the next day, we picked up our sweet boys from their grandparents house and I spent time with them & still managed to go to the bridal shower. {Pictures on that coming soon}

While I didn’t get enough sleep & I had one hell of a hangover. I would re live that night all over again!
Happy Monday yall!


The Golden Tribe.

Yep that’s our name. Who is “our” you ask. Well you can find out about them in this post. ;)

Let me just tell you why I love these girls. Besides the fact that they are all amazing, sweet, wonderful.. really I should stop because I could go on and on. One things I love about them is they are all so real & they make you laugh. Seriously – we met up on google + hangout last night {picture is from the time before that} and laughed so much.

But why I’m telling you this today. You see I’ve been in kind of a blogging stump lately. Not wanting to write, be on twitter, comment, respond to e-mails. Nada. I’ve done it – but I haven’t really had it in me. But last night these girls reminded me exactly why I blog. They brought my spirits back up with their stories, their successes, their pure amazingness. Yeah – amazingness I said it.

They make you feel so welcome & so not alone if that makes sense! I walked away from our meeting last night feeling refreshed, like hanging out with them is exactly what I needed because I’ll tell you something right now – friendship is something we all need and I love the friendship I have formed with these girls!

Thank you ladies for being YOU!

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